Perinatal Pleasure: Yes, We're Going There

May 11

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Episode Notes

In this episode, Becky welcomes Dr. Jordin Wiggins—also known as “the pleasure doctor”—for an honest, expansive conversation about sex, intimacy, and pleasure during pregnancy and beyond. In this judgment-free space, they explore questions many people have but rarely feel comfortable asking.

Dr. Wiggins shares her deeply personal journey into sexual health, shaped by her own experiences with trauma, pelvic pain, hormone challenges, and gaps in conventional medical care. These experiences led her to reframe libido and pleasure not as luxuries, but as essential indicators of overall health and wellbeing.

The conversation challenges dominant narratives around sex—especially the idea that it should look the same across life stages. Instead, Dr. Wiggins emphasizes that sexuality is fluid, evolving through pregnancy, postpartum, and beyond. She introduces the concept of “pleasure-centered” intimacy as a powerful alternative to the male-centered scripts many couples have been taught.

Together, Becky and Dr. Wiggins also unpack the relational dynamics that impact intimacy—especially during pregnancy and postpartum—including communication breakdowns, power shifts, unmet needs, and the importance of consent, safety, and curiosity in maintaining connection.

Topics Discussed

The fluid nature of sexuality across life stages
Why sex isn’t a fixed experience—and how expectations can limit pleasure.
Personal story: trauma, healing, and becoming “the pleasure doctor”
How Dr. Wiggins’ lived experience shaped her clinical approach.
Low libido as a health signal
Understanding desire as a marker of stress, safety, and overall wellbeing.
Sex during pregnancy: what’s normal?
The wide spectrum of desire changes—from increased libido to none at all.
Body image, fatigue, and identity shifts in pregnancy
How physical and emotional changes impact intimacy.
Pleasure-centered vs. male-centered sex
Challenging cultural scripts and redefining what intimacy can look like.
The “orgasm gap” and lack of sexual education
How misinformation shapes expectations and experiences.
Postpartum realities and the “six-week green light” myth
Why medical clearance doesn’t equal readiness for penetrative sex.
Communication, consent, and relationship dynamics
Navigating mismatched desire, boundaries, and expectations.
Power dynamics and vulnerability in pregnancy/postpartum
How these stages can shift relational balance—and sometimes expose or escalate control issues.
Introduction to BDSM frameworks (consent, boundaries, exploration)
Using structured communication models to improve intimacy.
Pleasure exploration and “pleasure research”
Relearning what feels good—individually and in partnership.

Guest information

Dr. Jordin Wiggins is the founder of The Pleasure Collective and a leading voice in the movement to redefine women’s relationships with pleasure, power, and self-worth. With a background in health and human behavior, she brings a bold, research-informed perspective to conversations that are often silenced or misunderstood—especially around female desire, burnout, and the hidden dynamics shaping modern relationships.

Through her work, Jordin challenges the cultural narratives that disconnect women from their bodies and teaches them how to reclaim pleasure as a form of personal agency—not just in intimacy, but in every area of life.